the strident insistence from radfems that being a woman is suffering because women are oppressed is kind of hitting me where i live, actually, because in the last couple days i had the very intense and upsetting realization that most cis girls actually do like being women, even when misogyny and fatphobia makes them feel bad about themselves. the responses to this post from both male and female cis people have kind of confirmed it: if you’re cis, your gender doesn’t feel like a chore, a job, or a responsibility. it just feels right.
so i’ve got a lot of thinking to do about my own identity now! and even if i do end up concluding that i’m definitely a girl, i think this conversation is really useful to have. it’s hard, i think, to figure out whether or not you’re trans, when being cis is always this unspoken assumption. i think it’s better when everything’s articulated and we can all compare and contrast!
“primtheamazing said: does being a woman mostly feel like a chore/job/responsibility for you? (good luck on your gender quest!)”
yep! i’m still unpacking stuff but it’s always felt like being a woman is a very difficult, important job i was selected for, so i’m obligated to do it well! compounding this has always been the thought that i couldn’t be a boy because i’m so small, i’d be worse off, socially, and i’d rather be treated as an adult woman than some twinky little boy.
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