If you say yes because:
- There’s no point in saying no
- They won’t listen to no
- They haven’t listened to no in the past
- You’re afraid of what they will say or do if you say no
- You’re afraid of what someone else will say or do if you say no
- You don’t believe you have the right to say no
- You don’t think you matter enough to say no
- You don’t think a person “like you” gets to say no
- You think they’ll no longer love you if you say no
- You think they’ll hate/hurt themselves if you say no
- You think they’ll hurt someone else if you say no
- You said yes before and don’t think you can revoke it
- You have said yes to other people and think that means now you have to say yes to whoever wants you
- You are being threatened
- You believe it is your duty to say yes
- You are being offered a reward if you say yes
- You have been told you “have to” do a particular act to be a “real” ______
- You think it’s “too late” to say no
- You didn’t understand what they wanted to do
- Any reason at all other than you actually want to engage in that specific act at that specific time with that specific person with full knowledge of what it is, freedom to say no without fear of consequence, and the full belief in your own agency to make your own decisions about your body
It’s not a real yes. It’s not real consent. And what happened to you was still a real violation and your feelings about that are also very, very real and very okay.
i know my own little bros this blog is for are down with this but to all dudes who look at this blog
hey
this is pretty important to remember when you are trying to get into someones pants, dudes, do your best to not ever make people feel like this ok
callanswall 